I believe many of us privately struggle with fear, afraid to expose our secret vulnerable selves to others. I do.
I also believe we must embrace our vulnerability to discover our strength.
And that real intimacy begins only when we share our fragile vulnerable selves with others who are safe and non-judgemental.
Others who allow us to be who we are and let us have our stuff. Others who can simply give us our space, or offer loving Presence, without trying to fix us, or tell us who to be–in order to make themselves more comfortable.
And, having said all that, for me, the actual doing of it, the for-real sharing of my vulnerable self to another person, is hard. Especially, after a Fall.
And so I take baby steps. Then I stop. I breathe, deeply. I listen. And I ask myself, “What am I feeling? What is my body telling me? About this situation? About this person? Am I still safe?”
Slowly, carefully, I am learning to trust myself again.
Two of my favorite blogs are Live Bold and Bloom, written by Barrie Davenport, and A Certain Simplicity, by Diana Baur. It was my pleasure this weekend to open my email from Barrie and find a guest post written by Diana.
Diana’s beautiful writing touched me deeply, as she spoke from her heart, with rare honesty and bravery, about living through anxiety and panic. About how anxiety and panic almost derailed her, how she faced her fear, and how she found the strength to get back up again.
Here is the link to this rich post:
Many of us live with bouts of panic and anxiety. I found Diana’s story profoundly inspiring and helpful. Perhaps you will as well.
How do you face fear?
How do you embrace vulnerability? Or hide from it?
How can we create a safe space for others to be who they are?
And for ourselves?
Photo: Dark Night, Full Moon, Stable
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